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Sex Without Love
Sharon Olds

How do they do it, the ones who make love
without love? Beautiful as dancers,
gliding over each other like ice-skaters
over the ice, fingers hooked
inside each other's bodies, faces
red as steak, wine, wet as the
children at birth whose mothers are going to
give them away. How do they come to the
come to the come to the God come to the
still waters, and not love
the one who came there with them, light
rising slowly as steam off their joined
skin? These are the true religious,
the purists, the pros, the ones who will not
accept a false Messiah, love the
priest instead of the God. They do not
mistake the lover for their own pleasure,
they are like great runners: they know they are alone
with the road surface, the cold, the wind,
the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardio-
vascular health--just factors, like the partner
in the bed, and not the truth, which is the
single body alone in the universe
against its own best time.
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Last night I got to talking with my aesthetician about the state of sex education in America. Y'know, as you do. She's in her early 20s, grew up in northern California and has lived here all her life, and had no idea that in much of the rest of the country, comprehensive sex ed isn't taught in schools. She reasoned that people from those parts of the country must be why shows like 16 and Pregnant and I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant exist, since she's never understood how people could be so ignorant about sex, their bodies, and relationships. Unfortunately there wasn't time during the span of a 20-minute hoo-ha wax to explain to her that it's not just teenagers, or people from certain parts the country, but a pervasive lack of good information and a ton of fundamental biases about gender, sex, and sexuality that is nationwide and affects people of all ages. Maybe next time.

She was also surprised that I talk to people not just about STDs and how not to get pregnant, but about relationships and communication, and didn't understand why I think it's an integral part of sex ed. This is why:


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